“Every agreement in a love relationship is open for renegotiation at any time.”

– Tony Fonderson

Is struggling to find that happy balance in your love relationship taking over your life?

  • Have you entered a relationship with high hopes and expectations, only for things to radically change once the honeymoon period is over?
  • Do you feel like you were on an airplane bound for Kansas, and somehow you unexpectedly ended up in Tokyo (and you don’t speak Japanese)?
  • Do you find yourself constantly defending your position with your partner and wondering how they went from being an angel in the beginning to someone you don’t recognize any more?
  • Do you repeatedly argue about money, time, intimacy or other issues without any satisfactory solutions? 

If I told you that in just a few hours you could change everything, would you do it?


From Struggling to Cuddling


This book will show you the key skills you need to master to safely navigate your relationship challenges and come through them feeling authentic, happier and more connected than ever before.

Wouldn’t you love to leave the challenges behind?
Loose the worry and despair and replace them with joy instead?




About Tony

TONY IS A FATHER, A FRIEND, AND A VALUED GUIDE whose natural talent is interacting with people in ways that they get the insights they need to solve deep personal problems. The son of an African diplomat, Tony grew up in multicultural environments and by the time he was 22, he’d lived in 6 different countries, had two engineering degrees, and spoke 4 languages fluently.

Tony was first introduced to the world of personal development after walking away unscathed from a near-fatal car crash with his two-year-old daughter. Although physically unharmed, he was deeply troubled by what was revealed to him during his brush with death, and this emerged to be a pivotal moment in his life.

His cosmic wake-up call led him to embark on a 20-year quest studying how life, love and relationships work, so that the next time he faced Death he could look back on a deep, rich, and meaningful life. His journey of self-discovery led him to understand that to create powerful, intimate partnerships, you must first understand who you are, and also understand what’s really going on behind the scenes. 

The way Tony blends science, languages, psychology and culture makes him a sought-after source of guidance, wisdom and expert advice in matters of the heart, mind and soul.



“You know when you go down a steep set of stairs, you must hold onto the railing in case you fall? Well, Tony is like the railing when you can’t see the next step. His superpower is guiding you safely through challenging situations”.

– Sharaz Gill

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